女方要求男方拿出20万彩礼,这合理吗?

~ 有时候想不明白，为什么一个普通家庭要去为难另一个普通家庭？这种“为难”背后，真的是纯粹为女儿好吗？许多人说，现在生男孩女孩都一样，但到了谈婚论嫁的时候，就变得不一样了。很多人把嫁女儿当作一种交易，要求男方提供房子、车子和彩礼，并且理直气壮。这实际上 contradicts the notion of equality between boys and girls. So, many people seem to practice one thing in public but another in private, which is hypocritical and selfish.
Also, have you ever thought about the fact that the demand for dowry often破坏s the equal relationship between husband and wife and the balance in marriage? The root cause of this problem is the concept of "marrying" and "giving away in marriage". Parents often think that their daughter is marrying someone else, rather than marrying someone together. This leads to an unequal and asymmetric relationship between husband and wife. True equality means that both men and women are equal, and this should also apply to marriage. In this case, there is no "marrying" or "giving away in marriage", but rather, two young people leave their original families to start a new one together. This is a truly equal and fair marriage model, where both families help to establish the new household.
The purpose of the dowry is to express good wishes, not to reflect greed and selfishness. In essence, the problem with high dowry is not just about money, but also about the lack of determination of the two young people to share their fate together. Even if one side compromises and the marriage goes ahead, the crisis is already there.
Parents who ask for a high dowry may see it as a return on their investment in raising their daughter. They may not dare to admit this directly, so they hide behind the excuse of doing it for their daughter. What is worst is when the daughter herself is brainwashed by her parents and fails to think independently.
In conclusion, there is no problem that cannot be solved, only desires that cannot be satisfied. As long as there is no selfishness involved, it is not difficult to make compromises. The key is to understand the real intentions behind the dowry demands. If the dowry is kept by the parents, it loses its meaning. Whether it is dowry or dowry, they should both be used for the benefit of the new family. If this does not happen, then the purpose of dowry and dowry is lost. We should look at the root of the problem, which is whether the dowry and dowry are actually used for the new family.

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楚州区15918239867： 要结婚了,我是女方我有房,让男方拿20万彩礼过分吗 - ？
邵翟注射： 正常来说不过份的,问题是男方婚后要住在你家的房还是他家的房

楚州区15918239867： 男方家庭很穷,女方却要20万的彩礼,你觉得合理吗 - ？
邵翟注射： 应该的

楚州区15918239867： 女朋友要20万彩礼才肯跟我结婚,我们已经谈了9年恋爱了 - ？
邵翟注射： 你是什么地方的人?如果在东部,20万的彩礼很正常.9年的恋爱,一个女孩子最黄金的时间都给了你,本人觉得20万已经是意思意思的意思了 况且这20万也不是完全都归女方家长得 到最后很可能会倒贴给你们组成的家庭 楼上说拜拜的未免太不负责,还有那个说跟了9年还怕人跑了的,你觉得你很精明是吧?你怎么不看看人家姑娘为了这段感情付出了多少,如果是个男的,这么自私真是给整个男人群体丢脸,如果是个女的,那希望你被你男人这样对待

楚州区15918239867： 问男方要 20万彩礼,过分吗 - ？
邵翟注射： 这些是没有标准的,关键应该参考对方家庭情况,如果对方家庭贫困的话,你这样很可能会把对方要跑.

楚州区15918239867： 女友结婚要彩礼二十万,高出标准线八万,我该妥协吗? - ？
邵翟注射： 现在的彩礼钱真的是越要越高了,很多人都是因为彩礼的事情谈崩了,这样挺可惜的,两个人谈了那么久,结果都要结婚了,却被彩礼这件事绊住了脚,我认为你们应该好好商量一下,大家都各退一步,彩礼这个事情也不是硬性规定非要拿出来...

楚州区15918239867： 现在结婚要彩礼20万合适吗? - ？
邵翟注射： 看你说这么一段,我不是你我都愁.如果是我,我这婚不是不结,而是不会跟她结.现在没结婚就这样,那如果结了婚你得什么样呀,还不得天天不让你上床睡呀.打你驾你是轻的.连你父母都不放在眼里那才是大事.先别说有没有工作,是不是残疾,就这么一闹谁也受不了呀.以后的日子还有个过.你自己可想好,一辈子的事呀.拿父母的血汗钱这么花你的心里就没什么想法?就这么好意思?就花得那么理所应当?

楚州区15918239867： 结婚要20万彩礼高不高? - ？
邵翟注射： 这要看你能不能拿出来这么多钱,能拿出来就不多,要是没有钱就有点多了

楚州区15918239867： 女方开口要20万元天价彩礼,男方有权拒绝吗 - ？
邵翟注射： 有呀!难道非要娶她做老婆不成?反正把灯一拉,不都一个样?

楚州区15918239867： 男方买房买车,我家要彩礼20万,到底算不算多 - ？
邵翟注射： 不管城市农村,主要看家里条件,没必要因为彩礼少就不结婚了吧,毕竟结婚不是因为钱.

楚州区15918239867： 我们是相亲认识的,女朋友跟我要20万彩礼不给就不结婚 - ？
邵翟注射： 你们当地的风俗是怎样的了,彩礼一般要多少了.如果风俗就是要20万的,而且女方又是很注重传统的,你又和很想和女方结婚的情况下只能努力想办法筹钱了.如果觉得不是非女方不可的话,那就放弃了,别给自己和家人带来了这么大负担.如果你们风俗只要几万,而女方非要20万彩礼的话,那你是好好考虑女方为何要这么多她的想法是什么.